We are a family on the go. This means that in the summer when we moved into our ward we were gone a lot. And then I was hugely pregnant and had a baby. That means more absence from church. And when our kids are stick, we stay home instead of infecting others. The end result of this was the perception by many in our ward that we are “inactive” or perhaps only “less active”. Either way, it has come with some real pluses and minuses. Here are but a few.
Pro: Your ward will come carol at your house for Christmas and bring you lovely treats
Con: You will not be expecting this visit and will be inappropriately dressed when you answer the door
Pro: People will go out of their way to stop by and see how you are
Con: These visits will always take place while you are trying to get your kids to bed
Pro: Many people will be extra nice to you
Con: You will wonder which is genuine and which is because you are “inactive”
Pro: Your best friend’s mother-in-law is in the ward and will be genuinely nice to you
Con: You worry your best friend’s mother-in-law will concern your friend of tales of your perceived inactivity
Pro: Said MIL travels a lot and therefore does not concern herself with such things
Con: She doesn’t make best friend come to visit enough
Pro: The bishop will go out of his way to see how you are and how your calling is going
Con: The bishop will claim he did not know you were pregnant, along with the rest of the ward
Pro: Your ward will feel really good when they see you bless your baby at church, because they will think they have brought you into full fellowship again.
Con: Maybe there are some other people who are actually inactive who need the attention
Final result: Don’t let your ward think you are inactive, especially if you aren’t.