Comments on: Something Deep

By: shadylady

shadylady — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 15:54:00 +0000

Oh heck! Working is highly overrated! I agree however, that it is good to have things to “occupy”, whether or not they produce income. Having a “purpose” is definitely beneficial to ones self esteem, and not identifying one can shake it a teensy bit. Re adjust your thinking girl! You certainly have “purpose” in what you are doing, perhaps reframe it as such.

What’s for dinner?

By: amy

amy — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 19:24:00 +0000

kelsey, i hear you. it’s torturous to be bored and even worse when you’re stuck thinking about how you’re not even making any money. sucky suck. just watch tv a lot and you won’t notice as much. oh, and eat oreos. mmmm, oreos…

By: Kelsey

Kelsey — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 23:33:00 +0000

Thanks everyone for your nice comments. I’m not too worried about when the baby comes. A. I like babies infinity much and B. I want to stay home. It’s just in the meantime when I feel able bodied (sorta) that I feel lazy. But I am dealing.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 20:44:00 +0000

There is more value in staying at home than you realize. I didn’t work even before we had kids (this was for health reasons at the time, but I realized it was good to be at home) and I had a lot of opportunities to serve. I had a friend I was able to help when she was in an abusive marriage and I took care of her son so she could go to work since her husband kept quitting his jobs, sometimes before he even started. She didn’t trust him to watch the baby, so I got to take care of him. Matt and I kind of felt like he was our first kid in a way. We absolutely loved him. Eventually she got out of there and found a much better dad for him.

There was also a time where this lady in my ward called me hysterical needing a ride to the doctor and most women in the ward worked. She had some bleeding from her breast and her mom had recently died of breast cancer, so she was sobbing uncontrollably. I felt really grateful that I was available to comfort her through that. I also liked all the time I had to try out new recipes in my cookbooks and surprise Matt when he got home. I can’t wait to meet your little boy! You’re going to be such a great mom.

By: Penelope

Penelope — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 16:44:00 +0000

The church is looking for volunteers to enter data for family history. It would be a great service to the dead and the living. I have signed up to do it, just haven't started. Anna Marie told me about it.

I felt that if I put my children in daycare, someone else would screw them up rather than me, and I wanted the privilege. Just look how bizarre Mike, Sarah, and Anna Marie turned out.

Seriously, unless you have to work, stay home with your babies. They need you, otherwise, what is the point of having them in the first place?

I usually did something from home to help supplement the income when necessary.

Keeping a home, being a taxi, therapist/counselor, seamstress in your case, chef, teacher, gardener, etc, etc, etc, would cost more than Aaron could afford if he had to pay you or someone else. Oh, and that does not include being a fabulous wife, mother, daughter, niece, cousin, friend, church worker, and keeping this awesome blog/journal.

You are correct... when the baby is here you will feel diff all day AND at the end of the day.

Love ya...
Aunt P

(AJ brought out some great points!)

By: aarone

aarone — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 14:43:00 +0000

It ain’t easy being a trophy wife.

By: Daryl

Daryl — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 05:17:00 +0000

My wife says that it’s just society making you feel guilty. Don’t sweat it! -Daryl

By: Cheryloxx

Cheryloxx — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 04:01:00 +0000

You are so cute and funny, even when you're talking serious. I've decided I'm going to work after having the baby. I just thought I would state that first. My reasons are: 1. I feel EXACTLY the same way you do and the month I didn't have work after graduation made me crazy, 2. I enjoy the projects and sense of daily accomplishment that I get from going somewhere and doin what I gotta do, 3. I like the income I bring to the family. Now, what I have also decided is that I am going to work < full time after the baby comes. There is a lot of stuff to accomplish and care for when a child is part of the action. Though I have decided to work, the decision regarding how much work is still fluid enough to change if necessary and the negotiation table is always open in our family. I don't think you should do the same thing and I'm not advocating any one way of doing things, I just thought I'd share with you my process of handling this dilemma since we are on a somewhat similar path in life right now. The best advice I've received is to allow yourself to change your mind as you become a mom.

By: AJ

AJ — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 02:54:00 +0000

Don’t be sorry Kelsey. I think that post was good to read. I think it offers great advice for future mommas. I don’t think your unproductive at all and that learning to receieve help (if it means have no personal financial advances) are part of being a union (aka husband and wife). We should get used to having great men be willing to support us. I think you are doing great. I also think that your right when you have your baby and a life to take care of you will have more of a sense of productivity. But you are caring for him in a different way right now. By waking up late at night and eating, preparing for him to come into a peaceful and happy home. You and Aaron rock as a couple and I am sure will be as parents as well.
Anyway, I think you will be great. Hope you feel better.
p.s. I don’t know if you have a cool calling at church but you could thrust yourself into that if you wanted? That should make you feel mo betta.